Its not worth the drama..

"I think.. She should have at least said a 'hi!'"

"They shouldn't have done that!"

"How can someone even do this to me??? I was so good to him all this while!"

"I did so much, and this is what i get in return?"

Questions of this kind often cross our mind. Well, not just cross, many a times they even make us cry, go without sleep and even fast unto death and eventually change. The change is not of the thought, but we change ourselves!

"She did not call back! Okay! I won't call her ever again!"

"I did so much... but now... I will think only about myself and won't give a damn about others"

Well in all this, we changed ourselves, our habits, our inherent ideas and eventually our existence. All of this only because we expected a person or a group to react in a particular way. But if you come to think about it, you would say "no.. I don't expect anything from anyone"... But truly, we all do. We expect people to behave in a certain way. If I smile at someone, I expect that person to smile back. And that's where we get hurt. In this fraction of second that we spent on expecting a suitable reply, if we would have given the freedom to the person to do just as s/he feels like, we would be free of all the anger and agony. We mustn't forget that we cannot expect a person to be just as we are. Each person is different and we must accept and appreciate it. A person can respond only as much as his capabilities and capacities. It would be unjust on our part to expect from them.

We all remember how pressurized we felt when our parents/teachers expected a lot of marks from us in school.

Let's not burden anyone else with our expectations. And in all this, we might just start accepting each person just as they are, and in turn free ourselves of all the pain we underwent because we wanted him/her to be someone s/he wasn't.